This scene from Parenthood struck a chord with me as a father of a child on the spectrum. Our son Trevor certainly had things that he obsessed about growing up, including the TV shows Blues Clues and Spongebob Squarepants, puzzles, and drawing. He never got bored talking about his areas of interests and could recall the minutest of details with ease. He could keep himself occupied for hours on end which in some respects made him very easy to care for. At the same time, letting him live in his own world without interaction wasn't good for his long-term social skills growth. Today I know more than the average dad does about Spongebob Squarepants, Patrick , Squidward, Sandy, Mr. Krabs, Plankton, and Pearl (Mr. Krabs sperm whale daughter).
Now I love watching movies, and I LOVE food. Given his passion for both, these are two natural connection points that we have together. One of our favorite movies is Men in Black. We've seen it many times over the years. In fact when the third Men in Black movie came out we went to see it together in the theater. Prior to the movie they had a MIB trivia contest. Trevor and I nailed the questions and came home the proud owners of black MIB t-shirts. We also love going out for breakfast, lunch or dinner together at places ranging from The Melting Pot to Costco for hot dogs. These are things that we both love doing together and as a dad I fiercely protect our time for these activities.
Do you see this as an area to work on? Here's a few pointers that may help you strengthen those connection points as well as help your child with socialization and exposure to new things:
I cannot express enough the importance of finding those connection points with your autistic child. While there have been struggles along the way, I am thankful that Trevor and I have those connection points where we are able to enjoy activities together and build upon the great relationship we have.
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